Here Are Few Basic Rules When You’re Coffee Meeting Someone
It is common to find out that you have something in common with the person you are meeting for a coffee. It is more likely to happen when you are able to chat about what’s going on in your life, which can be hard to do in an email or text message.
A coffee meeting is a meeting that is informal, relaxed, and conversational. This type of meeting typically lasts for about an hour and the participants do not have to feel pressure to get anything done.
Coffee meetings are usually more casual than phone calls with no pressure of timing. You can also take your time and answer any questions they might have.
Coffee meetings allow you to get the person’s perspective on something without having any commitment. They give people an opportunity to get to know one another before making any decisions about whether they want to continue talking with them or pursue a different direction.
How often do you get told…See you for a coffee? How often do we use this expression to indicate that we have the pleasure of meeting someone, for a little break? Yes, because coffee by definition is a “hit and run”: a small moment of pleasure within hectic days. Whether it’s for friendship, or for work, the coffee break – at home or at the bar – has its strict rules. Yes, etiquette tells us how we should behave on this occasion too!
The informal date par excellence
At the bar as at home, when you meet for a coffee there are precise guidelines. First of all, the appointment should only be made in the morning, or immediately after lunch, or in the evening after dinner. Duration also has its importance.
Obviously, if you invite someone home to enjoy a good espresso, the rules are even more precise. In your home, when you receive guests for coffee, it should always be served in the living room, and not at the table.
For the necessary, two trays should be used: one for the coffee pot and cups (with the saucer, of course) and the other for the sugar bowl, the litter and some small sweetness, such as chocolates or biscuits.
The coffee will then be offered according to etiquette: first the women, then the men, starting with the “older” ones, except in the case of a very special guest: in this case, he will be served first.
A coffee for the first appointment
When you are single and you have to go out for a first date a thousand anxieties and doubts assail you, about how to dress, what topics to tackle, what tone to use, etc … and last but not least in what place to meet.
Usually, you opt for a restaurant or a place to have a drink, however in addition to being on average expensive solutions (also thinking about the current difficulties in finding a soul mate and therefore an infinite number of first dates that in the long run can become a reality and your investment!) are places that can generate anxiety and discomfort (feelings already abundantly present during the first date!).
There is a theory according to which “having the classic coffee” during the first date seems to be the best solution to combat the worries and anxieties of the first meeting with a stranger.
At first glance it might seem like a trivial and unimaginative choice, while a second analysis shows numerous positive sides in meeting and maybe, hopefully, falling in love over a cup of coffee.
Here are the main advantages of meeting for a first date in a coffee shop
- There are numerous local bars and cafes, you are spoiled for choice;
- They are places that put you at ease;
- Everyone drinks coffee, cappuccino, or tea or chocolate;
- The choice of coffee and cafeteria is certainly cheap and within everyone’s reach;
- The consumption of caffeine and theine makes people more energetic and active and therefore more receptive and predisposed towards their interlocutor;
- Scientific studies have shown that drinking a cup of hot coffee (or any other hot drink) helps us to be more open and therefore more sociable towards our partner;
Confirming that it is a growing trend, the birth of breakfast and bagels dating, dating portals that organize first blind dates, and so far nothing new, but the novelty is that you don’t meet in any place in the evening, but morning, to have breakfast together.
In the morning, the moment of the day when you feel freer to be yourself, without superstructures or artifices, (no elegant clothes or sophisticated make-up) you get to know each other over a coffee and a brioche and maybe … from a first date a great love can be born!
How does breakfast dating work? Two guys meet in front of a cappuccino for 5 minutes and if in this period of time there is no spark or mutual interest, they are free to change tables and meet someone else.
This new trend is already popular in America and it recently getting popular also in Europe and meetings are already being organized in many European countries like in France, England, Germany and also in Italy. See Drinking Coffee Trend
So in the moment of the day when you are more real and free from conditioning, you get involved and it is not certain that you cannot fall in love over a coffee!
Few essential coffee habits that you may not have known
A coffee meeting is a common way for business professionals to meet each other and discuss business. They are often a part of an interview process, but can also be used to find out more information about a company or person.
Unlike an interview, which has a specific agenda with questions to ask the other person, these meetings are more open-ended. However, there are some things that you should think about before going into the meeting.
Having a coffee with someone you like or love can create a unique love story. The fact is that this unique story has an early beginning of which dates back to almost 5 centuries ago. Since then, in fact, coffee in parts of the world has become a cult.
In many countries of the world, especially in Mediterranean countries, the first and simplest gesture of hospitality when welcoming someone to your home or office is to offer a coffee. It is a way to show the guest that it is not too much, that we want him to feel at ease, that we want to share an experience with him.
Because, drinking a coffee together creates an experience that breaks down walls and creates the empathy necessary for a relationship, personal or professional, between two or more people. When someone who comes to an acquaintance’s home, an office, or a company expects him to be asked if he wants a coffee.
To the point that, if it doesn’t happen, he might wonder if there’s something wrong! “He didn’t ask me if I want a coffee, he wasn’t attentive enough to me or he wants to keep his distance”. Here, he probably would be right.
While in England there is the 5 o’clock tea ritual, in many Mediterranean countries e.g. Italy it is always coffee time: early in the morning, mid-morning, after lunch, in the afternoon, in the evening. You may not know what time it is, but no one will ever look at you badly if you offer a coffee. The only exception: just before the main meals, lunch, and dinner. Usually, in fact, Italians prefer to consume coffee after a meal and not just before.
