The Phenomenon of phone sexting
Our world is suspended in everything between real and virtual, why shouldn’t it be the same for sex? Phone Sexting is a phenomenon that has spread strongly in recent years, especially in the very young age group. But what does sexting mean? Let’s find out together!
The way we love, since the advent of the smartphone, has changed, there is no doubt. The ability to chat at any time of day or night and to send photos and videos has revolutionized the way relationships take place. Especially among boys and teenagers, sexting, or the union between the words sex and texting, is a very common practice, which, however, is not without risks. Let’s not forget that real sex brings numerous benefits … Here are the ones!
What does sexting mean?
Instant messaging is now an integral part of our life and daily life. There is nothing we cannot share with friends, family, boyfriends, and lovers. And when we say nothing, we say nothing. What happens then? That in addition to the hours of the gym, schoolwork, and photos of our puppies, the mobile phone has become an excellent tool for having sex (as well as iPads, PCs, and all kinds of electronic and computer equipment).
Virtual sex is practiced by everyone, men and women, with incredible ease and, although it seems clear that a teenager may not recognize the risks of these practices and therefore be a victim of them, it does not immediately seem clear why an adult should prefer a chat. virtual sex to a healthy real sex session, especially considering the benefits it has.
What do we like about sexting?
Performance anxiety is totally eliminated: for the male, there will be no intrusive thoughts of “What if I last too little? What if I hard too much? And if it’s not really hard? “, While for the woman it will not be necessary to cover the defects that she insists on seeing in the mirror, basking in a bubble of insecurity without the pleasure of letting herself go completely (obviously it’s a generic speech: many people also manage to live to solve any kind of problem). Or again, they try to evaluate the possible affinities with the person they are knowing. However, citing a sexting expert, the fundamental concern remains only one: you have to become ambidextrous.
Phone sexting the exchange of messages
Born from the fusion of the English words sex (sex) and texting (sending electronic messages), this term perfectly sums up the point: having sex using messages, usually in instant chats, via the mobile phone or other electronic means (for which we speak of messages of text, such as photos, audio files and miscellaneous).
Spicy and hot text messages are a good solution for long-distance relationships, to increase attraction (even in moments of decreased desire in the couple), to explore new sexual fantasies, of course. But what happens if you have sex with one or more strangers?
How do you define this practice if you engage in a person who is in a relationship in real life? And above all, why should one prefer the exchange of hot messages to a healthy orgasm shared with the partner?
Why prefer cybersex to real sex
Love through messages, images and webcams are now one of the most widespread practices in the world and this is because the beauty of hot messages is that they stimulate sexual desire, leaving almost everything to the imagination, not only of those who receive them but also of those who receive them. writes.
Then, with the protection of the screen, everything always seems to remain on the level of the game, therefore of the “undemanding” many do not understand that sex texting with someone who is not their partner, could be considered a betrayal in all respects.
The possibility of playing different roles
In real life, we would not be able to perform, which is yet another reason that makes cybersex more spicy and attractive than real sex. The boundary of the concrete is lost behind imaginary roles that greatly stimulate the erotic fantasy and free us from the taboos and prejudices of real life.
Spreading sexually explicit content online without the other person’s consent is not the only risk of sexting. It seems that a sort of addiction to sending risque photos and videos is widespread among young people: more and more young people are unable to do without this activity. Could it be, perhaps, the case of helping teenagers to have less virtual sex and more physical sex safely and (always) with the consent of their partner?
Who is affected by phone sexing?
Sexting is also a very common phenomenon among young people. Teenagers who grew up with the smartphone in hand, consider sex via chat almost as the equivalent of real sex. Sending photos and videos is normal practice, however, this does not mean that sexting while being virtual sex, does not have serious consequences.
The fact that sexting is so practiced among boys also has to do with the fear of exposing themselves in physical life: for this reason, many prefer to live an imaginary existence also about sexual relationships and do not feel comfortable enough to having sex in the flesh.
Getting excited about writing about sex
First of all, we find an answer in our hippocampus, in our limbic system, or our system used for emotions. In short, talking about sex and receiving adequate answers excites us. We are sensitive beings.
Think of many stories or books that deal with the topic of sex: they usually sell out. Because reading or writing relieves us from a whole series of taboos and shyness that accompany us physiologically due to insecurities or past experiences. We feel stronger and we launch more.
Strengthened by the fact of being able to interrupt the conversation at any time or much more melodramatically throw the mobile phone out the window, we explore areas that we have never given a voice to, but which nestle in unexpressed fantasies and desires.
Sexting usually takes place between people who haven’t had a sexual rendezvous yet (or who never will; it’s not a contract to sign, feel free) and who are getting to know each other.
Since sex is fundamental in a relationship – because it unites, makes accomplices, lays bare, and not only in the literal sense – knowing each other also from that point of view is more than a physiological attitude.
And what better way to do it without getting out of your bed (or sofa, or bathroom, or bus: any seat is valid, no complaint about lewd acts in a public place) than by texting and imagining erotic romance scenes with a person who is right now there.
